FRIENDSHIP AND HEADACHES

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This writeup is about friendship. Pardon me if I don't sound official here. I hope you enjoy this one. The feedback with regards to last times writeup was splendid. Thanks for your encouragements, prayers and support. I am excited to have you read this piece once again and if you're a newbie, you're so much welcome. 

What is your description of a friend? I know friends are supposed to advice and cheer us. We have fun with them. There are moments we tease each other to the brim. Some get so irritated. Yeah, I'm definitely talking of those with that silly quick and hot temper. And they leave us with no option than to pour cold water on them sometimes so as to cool them down. That might be my own way of handling them. Whether I am in this category or not, strong acquaintance would do justice to the questions at the forefront of your thoughts.

Friends are the ones we most times share our sorrows and happiness with. But, there have been countless times that people complain of the fact that a friend has disappointed him and it really hurts. I rather seem like I have excluded myself, isn't it? Biko, I was in the same boat with most complainants, in any case, I simply need to let you know that I actually jumped off the boat into the river and swam back unto the land. I'm very disappointed to let you know I am terrible at swimming yet I managed. Thank God I didn't submerge. After all, I came out safe

The disappointments could possibly be through the person's actions, words and what have you. Some disappointments are deliberate whereas others are not. Whether that friend of yours who consistently hurt you does it deliberately or not, let's leave it for the gods to answer, because in this case, I am not a soothsayer to figure that out.

But hold on oo. I don't usually let people feel terrible. But I think, I have to present my straight forward attitude here. People love that aspect of me whereas others disdain it. But no matter what, I have got my cloth gently wrapped around me and I'm ready to bring out any tiny truth I have come to realise with our friendship with others. You deserve to know it, my dear. Oh, my cloth? forget it! I chose to go in for the culture that has long been neglected by us. Yes, I am this enthusiastic.

Please erhn, not everyone is your friend oo. This thing that you've been publicizing to the whole world that this and that are your friends. But, I'm sorry to disclose to you that not everyone is. It is a high time you need to acknowledge that reality. You could be just a talking mate to that person. Oops, I have overlooked that there are levels of friendship.  Oh okay, you're his friend just that you're his talking mate. Lol. I know I ain't the primary individual to have said this. I just feel It would be needful if I hammer on that again. You might not have any evil inclination on your part against that individual yet that could be the inverse on your friend's part.

They always say "your best friend also has a best friend". I just hope you don't toss stones at those who say that. If you do, I better run away as quickly as possible. I am that best athlete of the century you know? Alright, understand what you keep in a companion with being completely guaranteed that the person won't let the cat out of the bag can be an off-base expectation. Imagine a scenario where he later on does. Devastated right? Charley, it isn't just individuals we are in a romantic relationship with who makes us extremely hurt our friends also. I know you probably have heard or even witnessed people who have been friends for a long time becoming enemies in the long run? Maybe, we shouldn't look far. You could even attest to this fact, right? Feel proud to say 'yes' over there. At least, you have the experience to share. lol

Right now you may be wondering why I chose to write about the headache parts in friendship rather than writing on the excitements and fun that come with it. I have had enough of people pretending to be okay meanwhile they feel like shit within because of one friend or the other. Biko, you cannot stay aloof and make a person hurt you o. But hey, talking of something serious again, don't get me wrong okay? We have those who can stick to you for a longer period or even till the casket drops. Such friends are rare and if you find one, don't let go of him or her.

There was when a friend told me her friends haven't been posting her pictures on social media. From the way she texted me, I felt she had a very sorrowful disposition at that instance. Come to think of it, see headache o. Is this something too one should worry about? Actually, does the fact that we're friends make me bounded to always post you? To her friends too, but why? Posting here won't kill you now. Oh yes! I am not that bias. I think this issue is solved supposing they read if not, they shouldn't insult me with their okro mouths. I know I have one.

But on a more serious note, you deserve to win an Oscar for this massive performance! You text her consistently without any replies yet you wouldn't stop. Please, this kind of persevering spirit is needless as far as this is concerned. You better apply that to an entirely different aspect of your life.  It is sad how we force ourselves on people yet we ain't considered a priority in their lives. If we are to crack up people's heads and figure out what they think about us, you'd stop the " he's my friend" thing and start singing "wele, sebe, Kontomire" because, at that instance, you'd know that you only need some delicious plantain with palava sauce to survive. No more worrying about insignificant matters! 

One thing is, this situation is relatable. We are all victims. So, who are those causing us all these headaches? You might point at one particular person and it fine to do that. I'm ain't perturbed you know why? Someone did same to you centuries ago. Probably you weren't born. Lol. Some people shouldn't complain o. They should know it's 'Karma' that's giving them their portion. They asked for it and they are having it.  Dear, do unto others as you want others to do unto you o. 

As extroverted quality-like human beings as some of us are, we didn't beg God to endow us with such a character erhn. He knew how nice we would fit into it you see? Please people, bare with us okay? The feeling that we force ourselves on you is excessive. What crime did we commit by being extroverts? If you don't want to befriend us any longer, kindly let us know rather than giving us tough times. She is an introvert and so? Oh, you say she is antisocial. What have you done about it? At least, she's your friend as we take it. Simply deal with her and stop spreading her to people she doesn't even know of. You this same person, when someone gossips about you behind your back, you'd be offended. Then why do it to someone else? That same water and blood run through the persons veins and arteries. Don't let my Science come this hour. lol. Not nectar and ink. Those are meant for flowers and pens respectively dear!

Why would we be living our quiet lives? Your action tells us you don't want us as friends any longer. You just come from nowhere and let our "talking illness" arise. You then cut the conversation off. Please, give us that peace of mind we deserve. Thanks.

To make my long story short, making companions accompanies a lot of headaches. Along these lines, to endure this, limit the rate at which you entirely trust people. Trust. However, figure as you don't confide in anybody. In this way, when the unexpected happens, you won't be paralysed by that. Here, you have the thoughts that one can effortlessly frustrate you and that has ended up in reality. The agony that comes with it would be to some degree simple to overcome than totally suspecting the individual can't hurt you.

Thanks for reading. 

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